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cheap short prom dresses, everyone will think it’s about your triceps. Don’t even bother trying to persuade them otherwise. Simply say that you’re uncomfortable, that you’d prefer to take a role in the wedding that’s more suitable to your age and relationship to the bride – being in charge of the guest book, for instance, or helping out at the reception. Then be lovely and enthusiastic at the wedding and make yourself useful. That should be enough to cause any lingering resentments to fade.My husband and I met a lonely couple who appeared pleasant. Their political views are radically different from ours. Normally, this isn’t a problem, but they want to bring it up over and over. Each time I think I have put the discussion to bed and there will be no reason to rehash it, they start again. The last time we were together
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